commonly known as A stage of growth and development of young people in the formation of self-personality, will affect his future study, career, marriage, family and social aspects of the field. Develop normal, healthy baby, only to lay the foundation for his future success. According to Professor, Institute of Psychiatry in London published a report than Fidel, 3-year-old children can indicate their words and deeds of adult personality. The report
scientific evidence
1980, the Castro than with the professor, a psychiatrist at King's College London for the 1000 3-year-old children were interviewed, each child were asked 22 behavioral characteristics of problems . According to the results of the interview, these children are divided into confident, well-adapted, quiet, self-discipline and restless five major categories.
2003, the year is when they are 26 years old, Fidel ratio psychiatrist interviewed them again, and for their friends and relatives were investigated. The results are as follows:
then be included in the Today, they are more inclined than most people hide their feelings, do not want to influence others, not anything which could lead to self-injury thing.
10% of children are classified as Today, compared with others, these are more easy to overreact to small things, easily upset and angry. People are familiar with them, mostly for its evaluation: realistic, small-minded, easy to produce tension and antagonism.
14 percent of the
4 high-risk
3-6 years old, often called ways that are formed during this time. As the saying goes 3-year-old to see a large, 7-year-old look old. A lot of temperament in a person's childhood, it has shown signs of a Ni side. Young parents want their children to become a happy, confident, popular people. But these qualities do not just because their parents
Here are a few signals to remind parents of the child to be a help and intervention.
shy!
lot of shy parents have such experience at home when the children are loud and clear voice, dancing to singing to dancing, but once to the stranger, the children seem to have become personal . Than the most embarrassing situation and refusing to say hello with the elders, or if well-meaning aunts and uncles would like to tease about, but immediately became a curled up hedgehog. In fact, the shy child is not shy at all times, they are mostly confined to the performance of shy in an unfamiliar environment or in front of strangers. We now know that no matter what the temperament of children can become useful. Children are usually quiet and shy temperament, and follow the rules. But it is undeniable that shy children are unfamiliar environment and the tension and fear of things, their attention; because they do not love to fight, often lose a lot of opportunities; more importantly, in this fast, fierce competitive era, shy children may also have inferiority complex, and thus cast doubt on the self-image ... ... These are the parents need to focus on of.
ways to improve it: shy child must first know what is not so state, as if building blocks, he will ride faster than the active cousin. Although he is willing to play outside, but which do not want others to He should know that in some cases, how to fight and seize their rights; he needs to know the public performance of specific methods and techniques, but these methods can not just empty talk, need more experience to be able to guide him in an awkward predicament of each .
bad temper!
A mother described her troubles: . so I do not want to take him out because he often lost his temper every time he lost his temper, Hong Quan, scold, scolding, lessons learned in various ways, I have tried, although at the time and effort spent Time to turn his 'calm' or 'repression' down, but this kind of thing happen again and again, made me exhausted.
emotional intelligence (EQ) in 80% of the extent determine a person's success. The most important part of emotional intelligence is emotional management. Emotional control is the need to spend a lot of parents thought the content of education. For those who temper themselves impatient for parents to teach children to manage emotions is undoubtedly more difficult. Often the case, bad temper is likely the child's parent is a bad temper. Alert the child know how to provoke you. If you are a person Jipi Qi, children can easily lead to a war that from you, they cried out with each other, no winners. If you ignore him or walk away angry, in fact, clearly convey this information: anger is not acceptable. This is an important part of children learning the rules. Parents need to remember is this: If the child has a temper reached by an unreasonable goal, he will get angry again, again and again and again to use this tool.
ways to improve it: In fact, everyone will be angry, sad, frustrated and disappointed. The difference is that emotional management ability of people, will use the healthy way to express emotions. Screaming, rolling on the ground, crying, breaking things, curse, kicking all the bad feelings of expression, is not healthy. In general, you need to convey a clear message: be angry, but a negative, angry or hurt the way to vent anger is not acceptable. Therefore, children need to know, not rolling on the ground so angry if the mode of expression, but also how to express their inner troubles and depression? Children's emotional intelligence training in specialized institutions, and healthy emotional expression method is strongly advocated. Children know, especially when their angry, they can be brought to your room, you can hit the pillow, his head buried in the yard to vent; can also draw the unhappy things down, thrown into the emotional garbage; can do
This is Mom and Dad heard the child say the words of the most gripping. Back child feels frustrated. After all, self-confidence is the most important qualities. If a person is not confident he would not begin to do something, even if prompted by someone else started, a little difficult to be able to trip him, because he never believed that they are possible. From the perspective of developmental psychology, 3-6-year-old self-confidence is the key period of protection of children, self-confidence during this time to build to how, or even of primary school age have a significant impact. Distressed parents often run out of praise, encouragement, children, or Recently, researchers found weak to withstand setbacks, the family actually misuse Many parents (elderly) in order to encourage children at every turn will be However, information obtained outside the child with this great contrast. He was very easy to find, completely not the case! He is not only not the best, in some respects, far worse. From self-confidence plummeted. Through education is often more profound than language education. Attention too much, also contributed to weak to withstand another reason for frustration. Children are usually sensitive concern, fear of mistakes, very concerned about the people around them for their views, in the absence of a full grasp of the circumstances, dare to try.
improved method: self-confidence is gained from experience. In whatever circumstances, allow their children to do their own thing. Children develop self-confidence is the family the most simple and effective way. Most importantly, parents should be more efforts to praise the child, rather than a result of the moment. Do not say: Clearly let the children know that parents pay more attention to their own efforts in the process, make them the confidence to face difficulties. In emotional intelligence training camp,
loner!
3-6 year-olds are still self-centered. In interpersonal relationships, they do not understand the true meaning of friendship. However, parents still can see some children play together in harmony, it seems inherently In these children, most of them can find such qualities: willingness to share, loving, willing to help others follow the rules, take the initiative. While others are Some children are likely to conflict with others; some children continue to This stage the child has started learning to become a Usually children do not mix with the following reasons: The most common is the child's behavior often offend others. With adults, children do not like overbearing, self-centered or destructive behavior, they do not like non-compliance with the rules of the game play. Children with attention problems often someone will interpersonal problems, because they understand the rules of the game difficult, but also a little unhappy in the game is easy when you get angry. In addition, there will be children shy loner problem, they can easily be laughed at.
Conclusion
experts believe that parents must take seriously the child's actions. Parents for the upbringing and education, and social changes in the environment of a person's character will have some impact. It depends on what kind of environment children grow up and what kind of learning and development under the guidance of a teacher, if parents, teachers and society friends to give the correct sound personally influence its future development trend is more optimistic, and vice versa Ran.
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